boy don (he/him) considers himself a gay Leatherman, a Tom’s Men (a devotee of the work of Tom of Finland), and a Leather submissive boy with slave tendencies and prisoner fantasies. His first introduction to Leather was a gay magazine, probably Drummer, in which the photos, stories, and “slave wanted” classifieds left him both aroused and enthralled. Since then, boy don has enjoyed learning about the richly diverse history of the Leather lifestyle. He values the opportunity to be different, yet himself, as part of a larger sub-culture that he describes as, “respectful, supportive, protective and nurturing of its members.” He also loves that when it comes to dressing up, he gets to indulge in the look, feel, smell, and touch of leather or rubber!
boy don first came out publicly at The Butchmanns Experience (Master/slave training), which would prove to be his most memorable Leather experience. He fondly reminisces of the night he was restrained in a straightjacket and locked in a cage for the night. To this day, bondage is one of his top kink passions. He finds he wants to struggle, squirm, scream, suffer, and know that he cannot escape, forcing him to succumb to helplessness and submit. Indeed, he feels most alive when bottoming, which offers him the chance to totally surrender his mind and body.
boy don was originally drawn to NLA-Dallas as a place to network with other Kinksters, serve his Leather community, and have fun learning while expressing his Leather side. What he has found is a home where he says, “Everyone, and I do mean this, everyone is so welcoming, supportive and non-judgmental. They all make me feel valued and appreciated.” He supports NLA-Dallas’ work in helping the local Leather community flourish while it simultaneously encourages personal growth and learning. He would like to see more newcomers to Leather and kink overcome their fears and join NLA-Dallas and get involved. “My greatest regret,” reports boy don, “is that I personally waited so long before getting involved with making my life and this world better.”
In his downtime, boy don greatly enjoys nude sunbathing, which he reports to be both relaxing and recharging. He finds nature to be diversely wonderful and intriguing, but also enjoys the indoors where he can browse the internet for all the possibilities and experiences others share with the world. Next time you see him on Zoom or at an event, be sure to say hello and ask him about some of what he has learned!
